I’m a sleep expert and this is what sleeping positions say about your sex life

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EVER wondered if there was any meaning behind the way you and your partner sleep at night?

Turns out that the position you sleep in, whether it’s nodding off while spooning, lying there all tangled up together or one of you taking up the entire bed, can actually reveal a lot about your sex life.

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A sleep expert reveals the way a couple sleep together in bed can say a lot about their sex lifeCredit: Alamy

A couple’s sleeping position can also say a lot about what kind of relationship they have and how they really feel about each other.

Are you less hot and heavy between the sheets if you like to sleep on your back, or does it mean that you’re at it like rabbits if you wake up facing your partner? 

We’ve spoken to sleep expert Anne Marie Boyan, who founded The Sleep Care Company to find out what sleeping positions really say about your sex life.

Anne Marie, the author of the Sleep Journal, a guided wellness journal with science-backed techniques to transform your sleep, explained how sleep can affect your sex life and libido.

“Lack of sleep affects our health and wellness in so many ways: from brain fog and grumpiness to a lack of concentration, increased appetite, a better mood and it negatively affects libido (sex drive) too,” she said.

“Getting into a good evening routine and including sex as part of that can have multiple wellness benefits.

“Although high intensity workouts make it harder to sleep, a relaxing exercise such as having sex, makes for a perfect evening workout. 

“Sex burns on average 69-100 calories and improves circulation in the body, giving your organs a nice supply of fresh blood before you snooze. 

“It relieves stress and helps you relax. Having an orgasm during sex increases the production of melatonin, the ‘sleep’ hormone, which your body produces to prepare itself for sleep.”

The certified sleep science coach explained that sex can also improve the quality of your sleep, specifically for women as having had sex leads to a spike in estrogen.

Although high intensity workouts make it harder to sleep, a relaxing exercise such as having sex, makes for a perfect evening workout

Plus, “couple snuggles” increase the feeling of security which makes it easier to drift off. 

Anne, who is also a functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, then described what a range of common sleep positions can say about your sex life:

SPOONING

Spooning is a “traditional” position and probably the most well-known of sleeping positions and it’s the preferred position for couples who are comfortable with intimacy. 

Anne explained that it signifies protectiveness, trust and that the couple is comfortable in the relationship.

BACK KISSERS

This is where couples fall asleep back-to-back, with their spines and bums touching. 

Anne said: “This position means that you have a connection but at the same time, appreciate your own space in bed. 

“You are either 1) a couple who have been together for a while and are very relaxed in each other’s company or 2) a new couple who don’t yet have a reason to distrust each other.”

THE NUZZLE OR THE SNUGGLE 

This is where couples fall asleep on their backs, where one partner sleeps with their head on the other’s chest, nuzzling each other – a typical scene from the movies! 

The sleep expert explained: “This is often seen in rekindled or new relationships and is a sign of a nurturing relationship with companionship and a couple who love to snuggle. 

“The person doing the nuzzling is showing that they are protecting the other, they are usually self assured and confident, all signs of those who sleep on their backs. 

“The person who rests their head on their partner’s chest is usually independent but appreciates their partner’s love.”

THE SLEEP ON THEIR STOMACH COUPLE

However sleeping on one’s stomach, if both do it, is not a sign of intimacy as none of the body parts touch. 

Anne said sleeping on your stomach is also a sign of protection of the front of the body, so this could indicate vulnerability, lack of control or anxiety and that there is a lack of sexual trust in a relationship.

THE UNRAVELLING KNOT 

This position is where couples fall asleep touching but they unravel towards their own side of the bed as the night goes on. 

Anne said this is ‘the best of both worlds’. It means intimacy and independence and is a sign of a couple who have been together a while and who are very comfortable with each other.

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LIBERTY LOVERS 

“Liberty lovers” is where a couple are back to back but not touching. 

Sleep expert Anne said: “This indicates security and connection and that each person enjoys their independence but loves reuniting to share their day with each other. 

“It’s quite a common position for established couples.”

TANGLED 

This position is where the couple fall asleep entangled in each other. 

Anne explained it means that you can’t bear to be separated from each other and indicate intimacy and dependence – usually seen by couples in very new relationships.

THE SPACE HOG

The “space hog” sleep position is when one of you spreads out and takes over the bed. 

Anne said: “This could be a sign of dominance (by the space hogger) in the relationship and that the other person is somewhat dismissive. 

“Look out for whose head is closer to the headboard than the other partner – the higher up their head in the bed, the more likely they are to be the more confident one in the relationship. 

“If both heads are at the same height, then each person is equal and like minded in the relationship.”

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Anne Marie Boyan, who founded The Sleep Care Company, explains a couple’s sleeping position says a lot about what kind of relationship they haveCredit: John Coffey

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